You’ve heard it said?
All’s fair in love and war!
even war-mongering philosophers,
disagree with the “All’s fair in war” part,
As do just everyday Earth-patriotic folks
who loyally prefer not to be bombed
and automatically rifled
just because some crackpot(s)
in the nearest capital city plutocracy
decide to make war,
using our kids and tax dollars,
instead of love,
solidarity with Earth’s pro-life health.
and folks who find compassion
to responsibly risk vulnerability
of a loving relationship,
disagree with the “All’s fair in love” side
of this unmindful equation.
Fairness, equity, of powers to freely say
to another’s invitation into passion
is a prerequisite to sustainable love,
mutual integrity of thought and feeling,
regardless of how short- or long-term projected.
It would be more valid
All is at risk in both love and war,
but, unlike violent acts of hate
risks of love are often fairly balanced
with opportunities for growing healthy cooperative resilience
and certainly not warring unfairly apart.