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ReCentering Domestic NonViolence

This brisk, sunny March morning, I return from delivering my son to his adult daycare van.

Upon opening The Norwich Times, I delight to read the new Center for Safe Futures “will be taking a huge step forward in how well we can serve the growing number of our neighbors who need help with domestic violence…”

After reading the article, I am delighted about this significant half-step toward a more integrated and holistic service structure to improve safety and well-being outcomes for victims and survivors of violence, assault, stalking, physical and verbal hate-crime abuse, black-market sale pricing for using powerless and unheard and unseen and uncared for human bodies commodified to provide third party capital profits, and other disturbing forms of predative trauma.

Violently polarizing drama threatens trust in neighborhood-felt survival, and our civil, compassionate community thrival, every time we hear, and, god forbid, exhaustively watch depressing, national history-making news brought to us by our uncivil, wounded and wounding retributive criminal justice systems; uncaring, unhealthy, and certainly not holistic empowerment systems for nonviolent reconciliation.

My colleagues on the Norwich Youth, Family, and Recreation Advisory Board have become used to my eagerness to celebrate half-steps toward win/win strategic restorative peace while simultaneously sternly reconsidering our missing nonviolent communication step away from retributive win/lose justice systems. World wide webs pitching prey against predator, cultivating my despair about polarizing dissociative drama rooted in divisive demonizing trauma systems that do not empower resilient health and safely resonant domestic wealth.

Down near the bottom of the first front-page column I read, “Service providers and community partners will work together to break the [systemic trauma] cycle of violence and abuse.” Wow! Now this is an unexpected good news mission statement!

On second thought, it does echo messianic scriptured messages about the Christian Prince of Peace’s salvific mission, and that, so far, feels like an aging, poor in spirit, and increasingly despairing half-empty step toward downsizing EarthJustice expectations for global nonviolent peace and justice.

In my wild decaffeinated morning meditations, this eagerly anticipated aspiration, to break the win/lose bonds of systemic trauma, reminds me of a huge covenant change proposed for discussion at All Souls UU, in New London.

“We covenant to dismantle racism and all forms of systemic oppression.” I wonder how we would practice such powerful “Beloved Community” passion. How could our faith communities help break the vicious cycle of violence, abuse, and emotional neglect fueling neurosystemic trauma?

Perhaps Restorative Justice and Peace Reconciliation practices of nonviolent communication could empower transparent and vulnerable dialogue between defendants and predators, so often brought together and stuck together by addictive codependence–which feels safer, and economically healthier than aching loneliness, emptiness, hopelessness, despair of punishment, shame, blame, Othering judgments that we do not merit unconditional warm regard.

My own therapeutic feelings of hope, informed by Multicultural Community Mediation, focusses on safer and healthier and emotionally wealthier compassionate relationships. Empowering intention and win/win designed retention I cannot find in this article. It misses a redemptive half-step that could prophetically declare we will not tolerate the “vengeance is mine” heresy that perpetuates future victimization. Excommunication brought to us by judicial and police systems inciting weaponized trauma among those voted least likely to succeed by disassociated peers.

Is it reasonable to hope this Center for Safe Futures, and all the best intervention and prevention practices advertised by an expanding Family Justice Center model may be fully baptized in the peace-making waters of Restorative Justice?

Will domestically healthy and safe mission statements survive the ribbon cutting to become resiliently saved from past systemic trauma sins of our Straight White Patriarchal fathers?

I guess I’m still waiting, as my acidic coffee stomach turns cold with impatient curiosity, for some other brilliantly brighter good news front-page article announcing the multiculturally grand virtues of neurosystemic trauma-informed therapeutic projects to ReCenter Healthy Bodies and Safe Mind Wellness Futures.

Compassionate futures that restore virtuous communion circles of therapeutic repair–and not viciously retributive, accountability trauma hierarchies continuing to promise more efficiently enlightened from-above services, still half-stepping toward managing a universally disunitarian pandemic of dissociative despair.

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Not So Great Expectations

My favored Muse
mysteriously asks
muted
kinda sexist
win/lose
either/or
complex bilateral questions.

Oppositional
defiant
nearly despairing quests
exploring why I have yet to find
Faith
Hope
or delightful Joy
as names for a boy

Who might be named
willful Father William
or Pastor warlike Warren
or Patriarchal terrifying Terrence
or even red Deacon Fred’s
bruising win/lose plots
against Reverend Bruce.

Vengeance is mine
says retributive justice
Preacher Justin
proclaiming blame
and shame
on monotheistic Religious Teacher
Shane.

Meanwhile
wise elderly EcoFeminists,
warming the pews
and cooperatively co-invested offering plates,
continue singing Joyful journey praises

Of Faith’s passionate commitment
inside EarthMother’s cathedral Grace

And Hope’s sometimes unsisterly
yet sincere advocacy
for paper straws
to win EarthTribe’s straining race
against ecocidal ocean polluting
patriarchal time
and desecrating capitalistic
commodifying space

Wherein my favored Muse
mysteriously asks
muted
musical
win/lose
either/or
complex bipartisan questions
of secular health care
and sacred safety shares,
music’s dissonant glare,
bemusing bewares.

Spiritual springtime
invites Aunt April
Matriarchal May
Joyful June

While natural full-summered lust
and bustling Buster
fluster hot
sweaty
sometimes angry
idolatrously crusty August
oppression
suppression
repression

Negative impressions
of Winny’s winter
wounded
advent womb

Emerging Tiffany’s
annual Epiphany,
favoring ecofeminist Muse
mysteriously musing
kinda amusing
win/lose
either/or
complex bipartisan questions.

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John 3:16 ReViewed

How can an omniscient,
not to mention
omnipotently patriarchal,
God

So love the world
that He gave us
StraightWhite Capitalist
Lord and Master
anthrosupremacists

So they could infest
and rabidly kill
BeautyQueen Gaia’s
polycultural
panentheistic
revolution?

Over exercising
Western colonizing
monotheistically manifest destiny

To RightWing punish
under divine authority
of Old Testament
Vengeance is Jehovah Mine!

Industrially incorporating
the ownership of energy
air
water
sacred indigenous soil,
humus of rich, dark ancestors

Natural wisdom resources
now spiritually depleting
future polycultural EarthTribes
through lose/lose traumas
of chaotic disintegrity’s
competitive Patriarchal
homophobic
and sexist
and RightWing
monotheistic
monoculturing
ecocide

That also feels depressingly
like EarthMatricide,
aborting rights to health
and environmental safety
for sacred EarthTribe’s present
and future compassionate regenerations
restoring nonviolently communioned peace.

Hopefully
and curiously
and courageously
rather more enamored
enlightened
empowered
with win/win deep communication choices
while naturally playing
spiritually praying

For bigger and better
healthier and safer,
1 universal bisexual
0 unitarian multisensory bihemispheric

Bilaterally therapeutic
bicamerally intelligent
sacred EarthTribal politics

Revisting theological possibilities
of God as a monotheistic noun
of Here/Now Presence
and Goddess,
a polytheistically animated
cooperatively co-invested verb
of systemic therapeutic
health and safety
polyvagal win/win becoming
EarthTribe peace.

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Settling Contentious Affairs

Guns,
and ballistic threats
don’t settle anything
They can’t,
more quickly
kill.

Mindfulness,
and compassion therapies,
might restore peace
We could
most inclusively
embrace.

Could our court
and prison
and police
and legislative systems
become more mindful,
less judgmental,
by restoring win/win hopeful health?

Rather than punishing
shadowed neurodiversity
and cognitive limitations
and post traumatic stress disorders
and attention deficit hyperactivity disorders
and poverty
and lack of affordable self-medication choices,

Retribution
revenge
assuming perpetrators had real-world powers
to choose
and chose badly
madly
sadly.

Court fines
and forced confinement
in bullying cultural environments,
and verbal abuse from guards
and cops
are not infractions
are not extractions
predations
crimes against healthy wealth
of possibilities
for restoring EarthTribe justice.

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Resilient Peak Experiences

Gayla Speak Experiences
promote healing events
not intended to contribute to trauma
drama narratives.

Stories we tell
and trust
and thrust
and softly smile about
when we dare to leave
our stiff
stiffling closets.

RedYang
universal dominants
friendly feasting
with BlueYintegral
unitarian intent

Together praising massively thick
and deeply embedded polarities
of nearly omnipotent
erect and hard patrimony
loving MotherEarth’s holy matrimonies,
compassion

Transcending monotheistic challenging attitudes
failing to question long-term outcomes
of dubious commercial
graphic success,
LeftBrain dominant anthrosupremacism
on top
of Others,
unstraight
unmale
unwhite.

YangPole hot resilience
cannot sustain
without YinHole warm
wet
passionately inviting
fully dilated resonance

WuWei balance
of divinely favored Versatility
engaging neurosystemic respect
for healthy work and play shop sharing,
nakedly transparent
vulnerable wealthy caring
for integrity’s warm
unconditionally impassioned
potential

To not feel bought
and sold,
short-term rented
or long-term leased

Instead both offering
and receiving
Pole/Hole equity
co-empathically felt
and touched
by peak impassioned
sacred communion values

Wanting therapeutic fairness
to eliminate all mundane
no talent
no appreciation drama
in our cooperative
pantheistic sex lives
loves
lusts

Creating
and recreating,
spreading
and retightening,
a cooperative
healthy
sacred nutritional space

For rethinking our peak
orgasmic win/win experiences
when we felt mountainous
rolling climaxes
and deep valleyed seizures
flowing out
and out
encompassing peace

Lost in ecstasy
present to awesome YangPoles
and wondrous Yintegrity.

Scenes sensory developed
from natural roots
seen through spirited hearts

Longing to both host
and guest,
give
and receive again

Through joy of warm memory
and sad loss of peak intensity,
elation
despite risk
of subsequent depression,
transcending invitations
and farewells

Domesticated LeftMind enlightenment
and Wild RightBodied empowerment
together
reproducing root systemic Yintegrity
of natural health
and spiritual safety

Trauma prevention
by means of
Therapy optimization,
flowering Yang/Yin
Pole/Hole
Top/Bottom
curious dipolar co-arisings
of co-empathic consciousness

Erect conservation
engaging liberation,
Orthodox monotheistic worship
and Heterodox panentheistic communion,
Monocultural hot Redness
and cool Green
polycultural awareness,
Anthro-autocracy
and EarthTribe-democracy,
Monopolistic cathedrals
and EcoFeminist sacred outdoor space,
Good-humored human hypocrisy
and health-wealthy divine integrity

LeftBrain’s fascination
with both trusted Pole
and beautiful Hole
satisfies
as either lonely Pole
or isolated Hole
could not

Trained by anal-rejecting
well-endowed envying
anthrosupremacists
to achieve best
and brightest light
through patriarchal-capitalist means
and SWM privileged ways

To bless our
RightBrain indigenous
wise bicameral hearts,
re-membering
and re-imaging
double-binding
co-arisings

Both Pole and Holistic
And Win/Win nondualistic
peak climatic experiences

Yintegrally therapeutic,
so Yang trauma free
resilient wellbeing narratives
for holistic Holes
and panentheistic Poles
wherever we may sniff
and search
and find
co-gravitating dipolarities

Enlightening Left-Dominant
and empowering Right-Recessive
wise healthy wealth
of well-formed
fluid Paradise.

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Sacred CoInvestments

Rebuilding bipartisan explorations,
at least two-sided appositions,
like generously inclusive
and conservatively exclusive
worldviews of MotherEarth

Sacred polytheistic strains
and peak experiences felt
through love of life
resilient win/win relationships

And secular monopolistic pains
deeply thoughtful
LeftBrain speaking thoughts
devoid of win/lose trauma

Patriarchal-Capitalist mistrust
of Polycultural-Communal lust
for life’s multiculturing organic
peak experience truths

Inviting Other ecosystemic worldviews
to speak
and listen
for who they are
less
advocating, instead,
for who we are becoming
more organically
universally united

By what Other and I,
however superior
and inferior LeftBrain thought,
most passionately care about repeating
from past organic
peaceful
robust
cooperative experience

What we most love,
cherish
of our own peak and valley
appositional
black through white harmonic
resonant
transportive
mystical experiences
warm
unconditional regard.

Neither pleasure/pain felt body
nor thoughtful mind
without sacred
prime mindbody peak
and valley,
together and separate,
in and out,
after cathartic transcendent release
as not so much
prematurely before.

Deeply and resiliently listen
for what Other most loves,
cherishes
of their own personal experiences
of relationship
communication
integrity,
bipartisan pleasure
in ego-partisan penance,
release

While absence of relationship,
excommunication
and disintegration
fade distantly apart.

If Other is able,
And when you mindfully become
a deep empathic
nonpartisan compassionate
and actively curious listener,
researcher,
analyzer,
feeler,
empath,
transcendently liberated-conservational
ego/ecosystemic
BothSidesNow mystic,

Then democracy trusting you
might find oppositional defiant
menacing republican capitalist Other
also feels safe enough
to more vulnerably disclose
how Republicans too
have been traumatized
by win/lose
LeftBrain dominant
privileged thoughts
without organic EarthTribe
peak experience memories,
feelings,
win/win co-passionate imagination

By learning to listen for
and provoke
invoke
invest
vest
prophecy
and predict,
sing
and sacred dance
negative dissonant
capital loss
religiously re-engaging positive resonant
communion gain
through cooperative
bipartisan
bihemispheric
bilateral
binomially co-invested
peak co-infestment Tao experience,
contextually informed
EarthTribe trauma prevention.

Reds,
similar to Greens,
remember Golden Rule
deep compassionate listening,
feeling,
trembling for a multicultural
multigenerationally transcendent compassion
universally unitarian
warm unconditional passion experience

Appreciation for shared EarthPeace
world views of Others
shared across significant subcommunities
invoking sacred
peaceful
democratic trust

In positive health
supporting republican EarthPatriotic wealth
among fellow win/win
good-humored multicultures

Pray together
for less Win/Lose survivalist
trauma-tumored monocultures.

Well-educated
and drop-out AnthroSupremacists
would spread our minds
and bodies wide
for standing firmly
on ecofeminist MotherEarth

With both secular and sacred
monopolistic and pantheistic
natural and spiritual
body and mind
integral health care giving
is receiving
bicamerally warm
unconditional intentions
to conservatively prevent further trauma
by liberally inviting
deeper and wider
sacred ecotherapeutic
peak and valley
co-empathic body nutrition
and mind value
enlightening
and empowering,
regenerative
and resilient co-experiences.

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My Black God

My Black God
is real as I could imagine
worrying about defective White People
vulnerable to skin cancer
and fading water-front real estate values
in His traumatic WhiteWashed Anthropocene.

My Black God
is strong as I could imagine
on my luckiest bipolar day
and lustiest bipartisan night.

My Black God
is Source and Soul
and, hopefully, humane
ReSource and RePurposing Spirit

(But, you know…
not necessarily always
business as usual Vanilla)

My Black God
celebrates sacred peak experiences
wherever these may be
nonviolently communioned
and found,
perhaps briefly bound,
with mutually informed consent
to insatiable surprises.

My Black God
holds no boundaries
to multicultural curiosity
about every co-passionate touch,
brown smell,
EarthMan tasty
randy thoughts
with age-appropriate visual stimulation,
simulations deep resounding
regeneratively physical
and mental wealth
of how Father’s Time flies
when having fecund fun
robustly resonant
overglowing
peak neurosystemic spasms,
rhythms,
punctuations,
postures,
positions
and cooperatively friendly repositions
climate and cultural adjustments
hoping for resilient regenerations

My Black God
of universally poignant
urgently cooperative physical health
aerobic exercise
verbal and not so much talking stretch
horizontal
and sometimes vertical dance
and compassionately cooperative care
not the least bit trauma giving
is also best climax receiving
sacred communion.

My Black God
follows this sacred Yang gift,
however briefly,
with holistically restored
unconditional warm regard
sacred sexual peace,
Informed and OutFlowing JustUs Justice
received and given,
driven toward

My Black God
of compassion’s AnthroScenic period
of ReStorative Justice
after a whole lotta
NonViolent Sacred,
sometimes flirtatious and sexy,
Communication.

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UnWorded Rituals

Glow morning warm
hugging
sleepy scalp and face embrace
outside sacred pink
yellowing fragrant dawn

Without fear of fading dark
or death
or sin

Welcome in
naked foot massage
pressure memories of walk
on stretching strings

Hang on
for this new day’s feel good dance

Lay back
tummy up
butt and back below

Angel face
reflecting innocence of trauma
from hands on humane touch
empowering health
warming arms to shoulder soothing skin,
lightly felt wealth of recreation

Back
then front,
up
now down,
back and forth

Soft slapping rhythms
to these wellness rhymes

Songs we sing;
your turn,
now mine.

Signs of tender touch
engaging passioned humors
triumphant
or traumatic,
soothing
or sad
frightened
angry
mad,
invoking sacred rage.

Warm touch patterns
never scalding hot

And vocal rituals
nonviolent communion
accessible
to enable all
creatures lost
and small.

Two brown cartons
at dawn of light
and one at parting dusk
just before dream-filled night

And two more.
One at early bright
and one at brightest warm
as I’m sure you’ve noticed
five from dark through light

In our well-seeing
daily weaving care,
visible signs
for sacred wonders
and silent wealth care voices

Warmly embracing
inclusive sentient choices,
enabling these shared songs
our therapeutic rejoices
of out loud sounds
while feeling communion’s dancing touch

Even more sacred,
profoundly aware
without verbal dominance
these soulful sounds
whispering our glancing
waving
circling sights
inside outsized well-sung voice
enabling healthy care,
empowering well-felt choice

Togathering
this glow morning hug
warm waking mindful scalp
and spirit face embrace.

Without fear of fading dark
or death
or sin

Note: This piece speaks to me of health care giving and receiving with those whose passions, powers, well-being and communication strengths are more RightBrain prominent, because they cannot feel LeftBrain entitled.to EarthCare privilege.

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Abortive Trauma Tales

When you and your wife visited,
you shared a question asked by a pastor
of a raped
and thereby pregnant
vulnerably young and questioning parishioner.

“If your unborn child survived
his first year
and walked back into your home
do you think you would still want to kill him?”

Probably not,
I’m thinking.
And,
perhaps more pastorally significant
and responsible,
how can we, in resilient compassion for ourselves
and for those who trespass against us
mitigate sacred rage
against ancient sins of our predative Fathers?

The next morning
over coffee and breakfast
your wife told a surprising story
of meeting a woman
in a Carolina church basement
who boldly claimed to be
an unapologetic pagan

Certainly not repenting;
more like recruiting

UnStraight out proud wiki
without thinking that might be an appropriate sin
for inviting healing prayer
rather than embracing
as if possessing a pure and virtuous soul
matriarchally regathering
HolyEarthPeace Spirits.

Your wife’s response
cautiously avoided Retribution Is Mine!
weaponized words,
another patriarchal sin of our historied Fathers

“I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say that before”
right out in public
toward lunchtime on a bright spring day
and certainly not in a ChristChurch basement

I silently wondered why your wife did not seem to feel
this pagan should be aborted

Stoned to death
or at least hanged
for defying the Good News
of Straight White King James
colonizing Jesus.

If there was a conversation about how many pagans may feel
about abortion of healthy tribal lives
or Great White Father rape,
or the somewhat wider history
of patriarchal predation against matriarchal wisdom
she did not mention such old crone witchery

Studying dark theistic codes of dueling history
usually tolerating abortions of Othered human lives
for exceptional survival reasons
emerging throughout traumatic transition years
for various viciously circling reasons

A well-capitalized
verbally articulate
personalized monotheistic God
might appear to be against
polytheistic Muses and Witches and Goddesses
within EarthTribe mind-spirited space,
political place,
economic race

On the Othered,
and safely aborted, hand
pantheistic spiritual commitments
supporting multicultural
animistic
pantheistic
panentheistic
polycultural respect
may more resiliently redevelop
sacred
sentient
holy spirited life
at the EarthTribal
universally uniting EarthPeace level
of sacred passion

Respect for our interdependent thriving lives
does not mean we are not also
abortionists to survive the trauma
of invasive felt predations,
biological
and ecological
and theological
and political.

Divine respect for co-infested fertile life
might include respect for death
and gratitude for EarthTribe lives sacrificed

As we hold hands
and bow our heads
with gratitude
for hungry stomachs satisfied,
for sacred quenching waters,
outs and ins of healthy bodies,
backs and forths of wealthy minds

With trust our thirst
for tribal trust
does not imply that when and what I swallow,
I abort

And do not also co-invest
in this our cooperative resilience

Health care giving
and receiving
EarthTribe sentient wealth

Respect for dark
deeply raging
patriarchal trauma
does not imply
disrespect for more therapeutic
matriarchal light.

And just so,
I reversely suppose,
universal peace
uniting holy spirited respect
for resilient
brilliant sentient life

Does not imply
disrespect for trauma,
despair
and death

Which I had been struggling with
when you and your wife visited,
and you shared your story
of a raped
and thereby pregnant
young and traumatized parishioner.

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