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Parting Instructions For My Oldest

You did not choose to be born,
much less Black Lives Really Should Equally Matter born
into this legacy,
your familial and civil Two-Connecticuts destiny.

I realize that,
And regret perhaps my own choices
in response to invitations for care-giving
and healthcare-receiving
were probably too egocentrically universalized
creolized so that whatever felt best to me at the time
would necessarily be best for you,
born into this diverse range of my health and pathology choices
for me,
now also for you.

No one asked, including me
Do you think a young African-American ADHD adult,
single,
poorly educated,
challenged as employable
with unresolved anger and fear issues
about whether he is care-giving enough
to deserve to become self care-receiving,
is left to care for
a gay virgin nerd younger adult
game-addicted brother
who believes he is actually allergic,
and perhaps alien,
to Mother Earth,
AND an oppositionally bipolar nymphomaniac youngest princess sister
with cerebral palsy and difficulty speaking,
civilly or usually otherwise,
and concomitant difficulties
not talking to herself while jumping
and slapping
and forgetting to go only on the toilet,
AND your youngest brother,
also with cerebral palsy and a wheelchair,
without capacity to speak or sign
yet with capacity to laugh and smile
with those he loves to know the best care-receiving,
and without capacity to chew and swallow well
so he eats through a tube
what he must not gnash with his grinding teeth,
and with midnight capacities for grande-mal seizures
requiring 24-7 same-room monitoring.

This is indeed
a great deal of operatic drama not to choose
to be born into
as the oldest,
raised by two gay dads,
old enough to have been your grandfathers,
one black, who seems afraid to be associated
with our polycultural reputation and self-presentation,
self-neglect, he might call us out,
and me white,
now apologizing for this mess
with which I leave you
as your birthright.

Attached are instructions
from your sister’s Behaviorist.
I suggest you adapt them,
first to take better care of yourself,
then her,
then your two brothers,
as best you can,
ecotherapeutic care-giving
is also egotherapeutic care-receiving.

When another life
reaches out to strike you down,
to damage your property and/or body,
and mind,
to touch you inappropriately
and without asking permission first,
before grabbing and damaging your thoughts and feelings:

First, remind your care-receiver,
as yourself,
to ask permission to become a care-giver
to you and/or your property,
because your life does matter equally
with each other’s;
not more,
but not less either.

Second,
teach your assailant
across permitted boundaries to violence and theft and behavioral restraints,
including use of civil voice,
to advocate for this assailant’s healthcare-receiving wants and needs
in an appropriate
mutual healthcare-giving way,
non-violently
and more domestically diplomatic,
following universal multicultural standards
for WinWin Solidarity
of All Lives Equally Matter,
Golden Rules
applied to people,
plants,
places,
and things,
especially technological co-investments
in Earth’s 7-Generation Future
of healthcare information systems
and their cooperative access
to growing Wealth Without Walls.

Finally,
mentor your siblings
with healthcare-giving greetings,
invitations,
listenings before speaking,
speaking back what care-receiving comes through
your All Lives Equally Matter channels
and challenges
about not choosing
to be left with these care receiving and giving
familial opportunities
to regenerate climates of health
and avoid landscapes of further behavioral pathology.

With apologies
for my Elder role
in your current ADHD challenged
ecopolitical and psychological karma,
but,
you know,
as a gay white-trash farmboy
who developed a thing for urban black strong men
in the 1960s and 70s
when my life wasn’t even legal,
much less of any socially therapeutic value,
I didn’t think past my own parenting needs
to give life more therapeutically back
than I had not-so-well received life
in my ecopolitical time on Earth.

If you do your best self care-receiving,
you will each day and night relearn
to teach yourself as others
asking and giving permission to respectfully approach
to advocate for universal care giving as receiving,
beginning with your mentoring history
of gratitude for Earth’s abundant grace
to place
and pace
you here and now
without having even to ask
to be born
into this space and time
of responsibilities for care-receiving
and concomitant authorities of care-giving
ego/eco bilaterally cooperative
WinWin healthcare systemic network building,
4D RealTime
unfolding and reweaving instructions
from and for the Oldest.

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Political Short-Circuits

A problem with fundamentalist short-circuits
is their Left-dominant tendencies
over RightBrain polypathic-polyphonic resonant feelings.

Fundamentalism shrinks Left-RightBrain Both-And
WinWin ecopolitical thinking,
strategizing,
democratizing,
domesticating,
creolizing.

For example,
imagine your nationalistic domestic policies
to pit those who victoriously have
against marginalized and criminalized lepers,
parasites, really,
in your not-so-humble,
vaguely fascist,
opinion,
are not going so well
as you might have Republican conservationally predicted.

You need something
you know everyone, of importance, will champion,
so you point out that transgenderal confusions
are not appropriate to military-industrial’s bottom-line
compete unto death
monoculturing focus.

Transgenders must, then, be an unnecessary economic liability
and political loyalty risk
because they aren’t decisively anything fundamentally patriotic,
much less appropriately straight patriarchal.

Unfortunately,
for the fundamentalist Either-Or nonthinker,
without richly constant and diverse healthy relationships
with any ecopolitically multicultural depth,
what might sound like a political big win
over little inconsequential losers,
breaks down with actual one-on-one experience.

The anti-transgender agenda
breaks down because too many sergeants
and corporals,
lieutenants leaking counter-factuals
to admiring admirals
and generalist generals
about the long history
of incredibly excellent military-industrialized service
individual transgender personnel
in the thousands
have delivered in the past,
unlike a dysfunctional bicameral Congress
and a sociopathological White House.

Transgender co-intelligence
tends to understand
cooperative media economies
and political persuasion.
That’s a bicameral nest of honey bees
you don’t want to fundamentalistically mess with,
because they will make you look politically stupid
and economically bereft of moral integrity.

It’s rather like believing health-assurance climates
of care-receiving
and for mutual healthcare-giving
is just a Democratic women’s eco-survival issue
when your own nationalistic patriarchal prostate
is growing in a cancerous viral,
self-imploding,
wu-wei.

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Global HealthCare Standards

Health care standards
are climate care constants
and resilient variables.

Health care and receiving constants
across cultures and diverse species
of plant and animal,
and perhaps even mineral, lifespans,
each and all declare
mentoring mutual health is positive,
between ego-center
and eco-exterior,
Yang and bilateral, or even multilateral, Yin,
squared and cubed
and fractal and octaves
of resilient variable sounds
and light,
space and changing interdependent times.

And absence of Golden Rule
mutual health wealth resilience,
is both climate eco-exterior
and landscape ego-uncentering
pathology.

So,
if health care and receiving
is ecopolitically good for One,
it is therefore resiliently good for All,
regardless of age,
species,
animal or plant lifespans
of ecopolitical
and psychological
health care constant development
across resilient multigenerations.

Ultimately,
health care systems,
like climate care systems
and cooperative networks,
from and form single nondual co-arising payer systems
of regenerative cooperation,
interdependently resilient
EarthTribe Elder co-investors
in pay-wealth-forward priorities
of WinWin 0-sum principles
like Gaia Hypotheses
and WinWin Game Theories
cooperating in bilateral BiCameral Minds
with HealthCare and Receiving
mutually loving interdependent Bodies.

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Stable Diversity

Nature loves diversity
just as air abhors a vacuum.

Stability lives in staged apposition with diversity
as Yang predicts Yin,
as time moving stably forward
predicts time imagined more diversely
as the history of regeneratively slow-evolving Earth.

Stability, without conjoining diversity,
is a highly subjective attribution
when blanketed across a lifespan,
when covering a generation of interdependent lifespans,
even when defining a genetically stable species
across many re-stabilizing generations.

What is stable within a life
is what is reliably conserved,
like a heart beat,
and breathing,
digesting and eliminating,
consumer and producer functions,
economic and political forms of conserving balance,
cooperative survival of the best interdependence
more than competitive Win/Lose frictions,
or all thoughts and feelings of stability
disappear.

Conserving stability over a lifetime
is a highly subjective attribution,
perhaps too broad and sweeping,
too global and universal
too totalitarian
too elitist biased
to be more microscopically accurate
across any one lifespan.

For example,
the growth rate of an infant
could not be stably conserved
throughout an eight-decade human life span,
nor could the constant two-year old questions, Why?
conserve stability
in a four-decade middle-age climate
of chronic crisis
about half-empty ecopolitical ego-stability.

Adolescent adventures in gender-related competitions
over multigenerational cooperations
could not stably conserve
a marriage
or a nation
or a planet
across a regenerative trans-speciating lifespan
of co-domesticating creolization,
democratization of shared wisdom,
health,
wealth.

I wonder if conserving stability
of bilateral mind,
and centering on stability with diversity body
more likely matriarchal than patriarchal,
oriented toward health and safety
across eight positive WinWin regenerations,
at eight-decades of humane life,
facing immanent individual ego-death,
could already be conservatively stabilizing
in the bicameral mindbody
of an infant child,
or even a stuck in adolescent competitions
patriarchal-dominant
nation?

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I’m Not Sure

I’m not sure
if nature’s spiritual voices,
if Earth’s cultural songs and dances,
are merely subjectively interesting
nutritional creolizing metaphors,
or if all ecological analogies
are necessarily and objectively interesting,
or perhaps even both,
sacred-secular co-arising.

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Domestic Help

Let us,
for a heuristic historical moment,
pause…
create mental feeling embodied space,
for domestication as value neutral,
neither inherently good nor bad,
but more of a gradual evolutionary process
increasing mutual accessibility,
and therefore care-giving
and care-receiving vulnerability
to active daily trust and mistrust,
while avoiding wilder excesses of active distrust,
anti-trust,
rabidity.

First,
YangLight domesticated with,
and not against,
YinWater-Flow.

Then
man domesticated with woman,
and only stupidly against.

When domestication is negative,
it pits a dipolarity against itself,
like a body against a bitchy mind,
a Yang pitbull of LeftBrain dominance,
enslavement,
violent commodification of domesticity as oppression,
political, and sometimes biological, rape,
terrorism,
denialism of our other cooperative half,
nihilism,
chaos,
entropy winding down Earth’s dis-incarnate
thoroughly domesticated
absence of accessible wilderness energy.

Which brings us back to historic domestication,
stage two,
domestication of energy,
fire,
nutrition,
flow of water,
passive heat radiance of light,
plants and animals, for agricultural revolutionary domestication,
electricity and oil and gas and coal,
for industrial revolutionary domestication of energy.

Domestication with,
as opposed to against,
can only unfold for both short-term
and long-term multigenerational productive success,
as an initial love cooperation,
a mutual nutritional promising hunt and gathering
of vulnerability and trust-building,
necessary for a long-term extended family domestic garden,
but also for a national domestic ecopolitical reforestation
of regenerative continental models
and ecotherapeutic health-maps,
mutually cooperative responsiveness,
solidarity of polypathic responsibility
to authoritatively reweave narrow ethical and aesthetic ecological threading co-relational ways
of domesticating polycultural balance,

To absorb domestication’s economic and political and psychological values
when nondual co-arising,
and disvalue when dualistic Yang and Yin compete
oppose
deny WinLose suboptimizing suppression
into self-and-other domestication
when appositional WinWin enlightenment with flow
into mutual healthy wildness
of Earth’s primal cooperatively peaceful revolutions
is slow and steady growth
ours for positive value
Earth care-giving as also care-receiving
dipolar domestication of love climates
our Yinmind-Yangbody landscaped selves.

An individual ego’s superego nature
and a national culture’s domestic eco-natured polypathic forest
are equally concerned with intergenerational diversity flow
of dipolar trusting deductive-inductive truths,
of domesticated wildness,
and equally concerned with economic power
and co-equally concerned with Yang/Yin political productivity.

Educators,
and parents,
and therefore politically powerful leaders,
of environmental Earth-logical sciences and arts,
and natural-spiritual religious and secular enculturing history
too often reinforce Yang monoculturing obsessions
with prevailing fast-growth measures of powerful domestic productivity,
while ignoring ecologically deep domesticating-creolizing reforestation
and long-term family genetic-diversity gardening
for inductive polyphonic flow
of mutually vulnerable nutritional trust,
domesticating transgenerational healthy-wealth
anthro-polypathic.

Domestication,
like creolization,
is value neutral
regarding whether competitively against
or cooperatively with;
yet ego- and eco-systemic mindbody outcomes
tell our self and family and national and global
domestic re-creation stories,
whether Yang/Yin positive
or Yang dispassionately against Yin oppositional negative,
enslaved and impoverished and marginalized,
or, more domestically likely,
some creolizing place and time
wu-wei
in-between.

 

 

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Healthy Love

Do you think love is healthy?

I suppose more therapeutic than its opposites,
whether hate,
or fear
or anger
or greed,
for is not love the formed functions of gratitude?
positive attitude,
that I am loved by Earth’s diverse health in return
nutrition
conservation
cooperative economies
positive psychologies?

You would agree, then, that not love
could also mean not healthy,
pathology?

Yes.
Yet I wonder
about two types of not,
forming a double-binding ecological
dialectical knot.

You would distinguish between disease,
unease,
and active pathology?
Between decomposition
and anti-composition?
Between economies of depression
and oppression politics?
Evil unhealthy forces,
more than mere absence of good health,
with rabidly LoseLose nihilistic intentions
to empower monoculturing supremacy
and, thereby,
sociopathically attenuate Earth’s healthy polyculturing diversity.

You read me like a post-liberal clock.
The opposite of positive health as love psychology
is active hate of love psychology ourselves,
human developers of humane natural-spiritual maturation,
while negative psychology
lies notnot appositionally in-between.
So mistrusting ambivalence
informs both positive trust and active distrust,
anti-trust,

Intentionally evil fear-mongering
and terrorism
and fascism
and prophets of nihilism
and preachers of divine plutocratic supremacy
because EcoPolitical Elites
have won
in a WinLose tepid world
rather than retaining trusting sight
of our WinWin healthiest love.

Do you think love is healthier than not?

I know Earth’s regenerative development,
negentropic and active positive ionic and ergodic
and thermodynamic balance,
never could have become
if this harmony were not
integrative animism
of our multicultural
polyculturing
Creation Love Story.

Is that your sacred psychological faith
or your secular ecopolitical trust?

Yes.

Sounds like dipolar co-arising nutritional advocacy.

Feels like a chronic orgasm.

Don’t you mean synchronic?

I don’t know.
Are we?

I am
if you are.

I am
and you are
so we are becoming synchronic orgasms
more than all that infertile evil monoculturing
hateful climates of pathology
competitive Lose short-term to Lose long-term self-oppressive business.

Stay focused, dear.
Don’t get distracted from our question.

Do you think and feel love is healthy?

Absolutely.
But it would be a lot more fun
if it were also just a little bit dirty.

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When Pigs Can’t Fly

If love is healthy
and health is love,
whether a screaming rabid eagle
or a peaceful mother dove,
then it matters,
whether you are a pitbull
or a kinda bitchy beagle,

When someone nominates for CEO
a person who flat out tells you
I am a pig,
and not only that,
I could fly like an eagle
if not for all you lumpen doves,

Run,
don’t walk,
fly, if you can,
in most any other direction.

To do otherwise
is like saying healthy Earth
could be more lovely
if flying pigs
were plutocratic CEOs.

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Two Sidedness

Where reactions against secular humanism
by fundamentalist,
universalist,
totalitarian,
elitist religious and nationalistic cultural
individuals
groups
gangs
churches
klans
associations
violence-industrialized corporations
criminalization and marginalization social institutions
active monoculturists,

share common values for nutrition
and disvalues against toxins

with revolutionary sacred ecologists,
WinWin economic-ecological meta-theorists,
trust feeds trust positive psychologists,
and political scientist
individuals in loving healthy relationships
of mutual co-discovery,
permacultural designers in cooperative organizational networks,
teachers who are also parents owning cooperative ecotherapeutic educational systems
as family health eco-mentorships,
economic and political leaders for climate and landscape fundamental health
rather than further reactionary
overly-anthrocentric
elitist monoculturing
Win/Lose evolutionary mythology
of a Punishing Unkind God
as omnipotently powerful as Gaia ReGenerative Earth Revolutions.

These common values
between reactionary conservatives for defensive nationalism
and fundamental elitism of patriarchal “mankind” rulerships
by self-righteous right of scriptural-history might

and revolutionary secular ecologists
for Messianic-Bodhisattva polycultural Peace
and EarthJustice,
Holistic HealthCare
and slow-deep-sufficient gratitude
for Earth’s regenerate
sacred-secular health potential,

conjoin within fundamental-radical love of fertility
as health
as wealth
as regenerativity
as synergy
as syncretism
as co-arising nonduality,
as WinWin dipolar apposition
(more positively powerful than hateful
and fear-mongering
bipolar oppositional behaviors)
as integrity
as consilience of deductive ecological sciences
and artistic inductive economies of sacred myths
and mists
and mystery
as LeftBrain ecological Justice
conjoins
RightBrain fundamentally polyphonic Peace values.

Just as an omnipotent God
must know His right hand from His left,
His RightBrain Spirit
and LeftBrain Sons and Daughters
must conjoin

just as revolutionary ecologists
speak LeftBrain dominant enculturation
conjoining RightBrain’s sacred eco-systemic WinWin feelings.

where Left ecologist’s Yes!
equals Right conservative economist’s not not may be lovely,
long-term healthy more than short-term pathological.

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Spiritual Developments

Erik Erikson
described U.S. culture
as stuck in adolescence,
and a more feminist Erika Fromm,
or Erik Erikson,
might have added
Nationalistically stuck in patriarchal adolescence.

Yet in the normal course of biological events,
and spiritual evolutions,
each life,
individual and cultural,
unfolds a rudder.

Each rudder has a Tipping Point,
acting like a pre-deductive
adolescent-curious
rudder,
manipulated by a health-intending navigator,
like the pre-ramp lip
on a wheelchair ramp,
inviting a more cooperative initial push
or final descent
in helpful on and off directions,
left and right,
up and down,
in and out,
back and forth,
Yang ecological economic maturity
with Yintegrative adolescent revolutionary politics,
nondual faces of one co-directing intention
toward recognizing limitations
and liabilities
of competitive adolescent behaviors
too patriarchal LeftBrain dominant for fully mature unfolding,
while also appreciating more cooperatively slow
and steadier
eco-flowing assertions
to politically co-enfranchise matriarchal RightBrain
integrity of improved developments
of and for Tipping Point maturation.

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