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Unbright Intellectual Snobbery

When I was in grade school
I was, already,
on my leftbrain dominant path
toward acting the intellectual snob.

This, in large part
my best offense,
my trump card, sadly,
against marginalizing prejudice
of our community’s non-farmer economic
and political Elite;

The few kids
whose parents went to college
and/or inherited some above-the-norm property
business, preferably not agribusiness,
professional service assets
even the most straight white male
would appreciate
like doctors
and nursing wives,
two income households
with academic bright credentials.

By the time I reached high school
being on, or at least within sight of,
the top of my class,
and president of as much political property as possible,
or at least vice-president,
became my trump card
for getting out of rural SWM oppression,
depression,
suppression,

Where I was not safe,
back in the 1960s rural midwest,
and I could never possibly matter,
become one of the local community’s Elite,
a pillar of church and state
while overcoming the guilt and shame
of being the queer son
of a below median income family farmer.

Intellectual snobbery
was my leftbrain overwhelming defense
against rightbrain amygdala loneliness,
extreme social-sexual isolation,
drowning in cortisol-baptized self-stigmatization.

Leftbrain dominant academic skills
were my best offense
for succeeding out in urban
urbane
multicultural
cosmopolitan
singing and dancing
democratically compassionate
win/win feeling and acting society.

The only healthy society
that mattered;
where I could possibly matter,
and become transparent
and vulnerable
and connected
and safe.

That defensive snobbery
still, in 2020 hindsight,
lives in my deepest closet,
longing for warmer
more inclusive acceptance,
invitation,
compassion

For right brain radical interdependence
with those of us,
regardless of income
and lack thereof,
regardless of self empowerment
and lack thereof,
capable of engaging
and energizing this tragic comedy
of small staged love lives,

Rural and urbane
Healthy and wealthy
Ego and eco-therapeutic
Left and right brained
Smart and warmly co-passionate
Proud and humble

Divinely humane
playing more win/win trump cards
through more cooperative co-investment.

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ReAttachment Therapies

Dr. Sue Johnson,
developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy,
rooted in an Attachment Theory
that organic creatures live healthier
more robust
compassionate
and prosperous lives
when their original womb relationship
and earliest parent/child interdependence
is more warmly attached
and less coldly detached,
and certainly not absent,
stolen for social protection disservices,
lost,
threatened,
and/or strategically bombed,
abused,
and then chronic Industrious Revolution neglected.

This Emotionally Focused Therapy
is also RightBrain emotionally intelligent Attachment motivated
counter-cultural to LeftBrain dominant patriarchal history.

Where LeftBrain Yang
applauds heroic autonomous
strong and silent messiahs,
and/or aggressive and loud Terrorists,
Narcissists,
and infamously Victorious Colonizers;

RightBrain Yin
flows out Her polyphonic non-verbal calming webs
of healthy domestic-internal nutrition,
cooperative
nurturing
integral
synergetic mutual emotional intelligence, co-passioning
ego-inside and eco-outside therapies.

Such interdependent therapeutic environments,
climates, if you prefer,
are also invited by Permaculture Design
as contrasted with patriarchal AgriBusiness,
factoring,
fracking,
fragmenting,
fissioning,
fracturing degenerative monocultural strategies
which historically appear as if aggressive and violent colonizing threat
is only worth mentioning
if we identify with the HumusTribe
or disposable tree commodities
or most any resident of an undisturbed sweet grass meadow

Under a sunny June blue sky
with billowing white cumulus pillows
floating like great benign ships, unStated
gracefully presenting a fragrant breeze,
flowing with an invisible
yet enlivening
downstream destination,
promising to return again
one perfect every day.

Or, should I say,
Former resident
of now paved and exhausted meadows?

ReAttachment Therapies,
rooted in original parent/child healthy interdependent experience,
are also found between resilient adult couples
and calm, slow-grown eco-village communities
and good polycultural faith communities
like organic extended family farms,
left-brain Universalists also right-brain Unitarians,
and Quaker Meetings for Win/Win consensus-building,
and in Zen Buddhist orgies of silent sensual stillness,
and Taoist ecopolitical Tipping Pointers
toward more Yintegrity
for less Yangominous narcissistic mendacity,
as if mountains were even secularly possible
without sacred valleys,

More liberal left love
for less stingy “I got my personal fundamentalist religious rights” anger
and fear of multicultural spiritually co-attaching values
and hate for elitist theoretical powers

[either/or unbalancing disambiguous
both/and balancing ambiguity]

through bad-humored
punishing patriarchal god-icons

[and good-humored
healing matriarchal goddess-incarnations],

Bear economies
leaving us lazy squirrels
and too lame
and slow
and tame Turtle Islanders behind
to smell more than our fair share
of Loser toxic exhaust
where once blossomed meadowed flowers.

ReAttachmentTherapy
is sometimes called Restorative Justice
instead of Retributive Patriarchal Punishment,
Cooperative Win/Win Game role playing
instead of Capitalism’s Win/Lose racist colonizing work,
Communion
instead of invasive LeftBrain dominant sexist fragmentation.

ReAttachment Therapy
is sometimes called active love, polypathic
instead of absence of requited, co-redemptive compassion,
polyphonic
well-sung,
yang/yin yinyang redanced
through past and future meadows.

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