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ReAttachment Therapies

Dr. Sue Johnson,
developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy,
rooted in an Attachment Theory
that organic creatures live healthier
more robust
compassionate
and prosperous lives
when their original womb relationship
and earliest parent/child interdependence
is more warmly attached
and less coldly detached,
and certainly not absent,
stolen for social protection disservices,
lost,
threatened,
and/or strategically bombed,
abused,
and then chronic Industrious Revolution neglected.

This Emotionally Focused Therapy
is also RightBrain emotionally intelligent Attachment motivated
counter-cultural to LeftBrain dominant patriarchal history.

Where LeftBrain Yang
applauds heroic autonomous
strong and silent messiahs,
and/or aggressive and loud Terrorists,
Narcissists,
and infamously Victorious Colonizers;

RightBrain Yin
flows out Her polyphonic non-verbal calming webs
of healthy domestic-internal nutrition,
cooperative
nurturing
integral
synergetic mutual emotional intelligence, co-passioning
ego-inside and eco-outside therapies.

Such interdependent therapeutic environments,
climates, if you prefer,
are also invited by Permaculture Design
as contrasted with patriarchal AgriBusiness,
factoring,
fracking,
fragmenting,
fissioning,
fracturing degenerative monocultural strategies
which historically appear as if aggressive and violent colonizing threat
is only worth mentioning
if we identify with the HumusTribe
or disposable tree commodities
or most any resident of an undisturbed sweet grass meadow

Under a sunny June blue sky
with billowing white cumulus pillows
floating like great benign ships, unStated
gracefully presenting a fragrant breeze,
flowing with an invisible
yet enlivening
downstream destination,
promising to return again
one perfect every day.

Or, should I say,
Former resident
of now paved and exhausted meadows?

ReAttachment Therapies,
rooted in original parent/child healthy interdependent experience,
are also found between resilient adult couples
and calm, slow-grown eco-village communities
and good polycultural faith communities
like organic extended family farms,
left-brain Universalists also right-brain Unitarians,
and Quaker Meetings for Win/Win consensus-building,
and in Zen Buddhist orgies of silent sensual stillness,
and Taoist ecopolitical Tipping Pointers
toward more Yintegrity
for less Yangominous narcissistic mendacity,
as if mountains were even secularly possible
without sacred valleys,

More liberal left love
for less stingy “I got my personal fundamentalist religious rights” anger
and fear of multicultural spiritually co-attaching values
and hate for elitist theoretical powers

[either/or unbalancing disambiguous
both/and balancing ambiguity]

through bad-humored
punishing patriarchal god-icons

[and good-humored
healing matriarchal goddess-incarnations],

Bear economies
leaving us lazy squirrels
and too lame
and slow
and tame Turtle Islanders behind
to smell more than our fair share
of Loser toxic exhaust
where once blossomed meadowed flowers.

ReAttachmentTherapy
is sometimes called Restorative Justice
instead of Retributive Patriarchal Punishment,
Cooperative Win/Win Game role playing
instead of Capitalism’s Win/Lose racist colonizing work,
Communion
instead of invasive LeftBrain dominant sexist fragmentation.

ReAttachment Therapy
is sometimes called active love, polypathic
instead of absence of requited, co-redemptive compassion,
polyphonic
well-sung,
yang/yin yinyang redanced
through past and future meadows.

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Sisters

Theology is insufficient for spiritual experience
because systematic theory offers no satisfactory substitute
for a hug.

I was far too young
to understand how I am different
from white patriarchal dreams
of MidWestern U.S. 1950’s vintage.

Dying family farm communities
were also too young in our North and West hemisphere dying
to understand how we had already been bitten
by the Industrial Extractive and Ballistic Revolution
that bred us
and fed us
and bled us.

I had a younger sister
who knew I loved her.

I would protect and care for her,
I would want her only to be healthy and happy,
I would never intend to harm her,
I would always want to play and work with her,

And role-play work with her
cooking
cleaning
farming
gardening
raising her baby dolls
and stuffed bears and dogs
with divine benign compassion,
to speak kindly
and to listen carefully
for this curious non-suppression
that had grown
courageously cooperative
between my sister
and me,
and thereby also within me
and within her,
individually

Good to go separately
to rejoin later
Trading stories of lesser relational cultures
and climates,

Together,
we shaped a sacred curiosity tool
for listening to love’s most compassionate
and actively incarnating possibilities,
right there
on our slowly dying extended family farm.

Years later,
when the farm was gone
and I was studying psychology
and communication theory
and theology
and ecology
in a still wildly homophobic society,
I knew to whom I could safely come out,
If this Earth provided hospitality,
sanctuary shared with any non-queer person.

When I told her
about this uninvited,
yet curiously natural, attraction
to other men,
she reassured me,

She would protect and care for me,
She would want me to be only healthy and happy,
She would never intend to harm me,
She would always want to play and work with me,

So I knew,
from her words and from long-tested experience
she loves me
most for who I am,
and not at all
for who I am not.

Spiritual theologies
and natural ecologies of love
were originally rooted in compassionate experience

Reflected upon,
noticed and appreciated,
then put into feeble left-brain words
growing abstractly transcendent universalizing theories
to monopolize explanations
for scriptured,
and scripted,
yet still enscribing personal love
experienced within Earth’s hospitality,

Wherever we can find
and feed
and water healthy co-passions.

Earth’s embodied hospitality
would protect and care for us,
would want us to become healthy and happy,
would never intend to harm,
would always want to play and work with us.

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Spheres and Hemispheres

Whole loves and half lives
listen to this rain
dripping tears on green leafed pachysandra
while, underneath our shared EarthSoul,
roots systematically suck up water
shared with thirsty insect habitats
not saved from starving lovely lives.

Amour
half evilly named
in emotional womanly royal courtyards
full of raining tears from queer minstrels
and curious fools
in dickless fawning France
Romance

Love
also supports emotionally intelligent health
positive energy to ensure EitherThrive-OrDie
need not oppress Right-minded BothSurvive-And Degenerate
resonate Earth’s DNA
co-passioning strains upraising
multi-generationally prospering regenerators,
collaborating through Her history,

Love balances Yang external actions
with Yinternal wisdom
throughout hemispheric half lives,

Scientific artists, vulnerably researching cooperative organic behavior,
Creative designers, redesigning co-creators,
Cooperative competitors, competing toward win/win cooperative choices,
Recreation developers, developing re-creations,
Empathic reproducers, reproducing co-empaths,
Curious investigators, investigating polypathic courage,
Paradise reweavers, restoring fractured Love.

Whole loves and half lives
listen to this rain
dripping tears on left behind.

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Faith in Politics

Faith in politics is not popular.
Other than optimistic civics teachers
and elected office holders,
faith feels troublesome
when mixed with social empowerment
over Others.

“Others” holds and hides broad diversity:
children
women
people of color
prisoners
slaves
indentured servants
pets
cattle
sheep
farms
plantations
ranches
watersheds
melting ice caps
rising sea levels
polluted air
worn out topsoil
sewage disposal and highway and military systems
industrial production and consumption and devolutions…

Good faith in power
is faithful to power WITH Others,
WITH win/win co-aspirations,
and ego/eco-active non-ZeroSum hope
for health increasing more
openly contagious co-integrity.

Bad faith in power
builds reasons to justify
power against and over Others,
with win/lose evolutionary ZeroSum assumptions
about economic closed entropic-trending systems
currently favoring Western white privilege.

The faith

[belief
reason
emotional and cognitive intelligence
left-brain win/win active hope
and right-brain felt love, compassion, integrity, co-empathy]

of Messiahs

[and Bodhisattva PeaceCorp Warriors, global mustard seed planters,
Hiawathas and Renewable Energy (inside and out) Advocates,
and Ancient EcoFeminist Wisdom Healers]

is rooted in early cooperative intent
to push together toward light

[integral harmony singing Voices of Other
health
mutual empowerment
happy, inviting climate therapy
potential for personal
and global
integrity].

Good faith in politics
seeds active hope
for multicultural empowerment,
co-passioned love for synergetic health
as also true organic wealth.

Faith in healthy empowerment
is as original

[seminal
ZeroZone right-brain prominent
sacred
sacramental
integral
creative
rebirthing]

as our first pilgrimage
from EarthMother’s womb
into this timeless light
of healthy passage
into interdependent passions
yet including autonomous
re-creative tension
promulgating win/win revolutionary intent.

Healthy intent
to see with both eyes equally

[curiously
courageously
secularly Left-Either/Or
and sacredly Right-Both/And
cooperatively win/win
nutritionally strategic]

To hear
both future right-healthed
multicultures
and past left-wealthed
polycultures
listening with
and then speaking up and out for organic
Faith in health-power
multipoly-pathic Voices

Still wise enough
to avoid monopolizing integrity’s Light.

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Nature Preserves

I don’t know many people so urbanized
they would not prefer a nature preserve
and star light
for neighbors, day and night,
over a new developed suburbanization.

Not too many people smile
when they drive by a familiar farm
with woodlands,
now scraped and scaped,
graveled and turfed,
cut down and razed with concrete foundations,
ready for more humans
not preserving natural relations
with more diverse species.

Nature preserves
promote both natural and spiritual reserves.

External nature preservation
emotionally walks
senses
feels and smells and touches
internal spiritual reserves,
sanctuary,
sacred habitat.

Most of us still cherish
natural multicultural places
as also spiritual polyphonic spaces
to visit,
know as cherished neighbors.

Few of us still live and love
as residents among sacramental traces
of past Paradise.

Even if right-brain’s emotional integrity of Earth sensed
as an interdependent matriarchal reservation
for restoring justice
through multicultural preserves
for inclusively democratic peace
has atrophied
to prefer the smell of asphalt
and chemically treated turf,

Together,
we can still remember
sacred ecological relationships,
glowing star lit nights,
cherished campfire habitats
following only DNA’s inspired multicultural health
as spirited happiness
instructions.

Natural wisdom
that what is good,
even for autonomous ego-development,
is also healthy
for sacred Nature’s preservation,
including Humane Places,
natural
sacramental,
emotionally and cognitively intelligent
Reservations

about what is healthy progress
and what is impoverishing regress.

Often,
in left-brain dominant prose,
We invest capitalized empowerment intention
investment in unnatural domesticated places,
re-nouns and pro-nouns more Proper,
speaking of independent ego-autonomy’s
drive-by missions,

And,
we fail to naturally reserve more capitalization
for what feeds our Spiritual Integrity Preservation.

 

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Love, Love, Love

Love, love, love.
Every needy thing’s about more
and better
love,

Unless you’re at a political rally.
Then we’re all about patriotic, patriotic, patriotic,
Or Freedom, Freedom, Freedom,
Although if we are not free
to feel patriotic or not so much,
then I suppose what is needed
is more Love, Love, Love.

More active compassion,
more listening mindfulness,
more global, if not universal, consciousness,
more robust and resilient relationships
with co-migrant populations,
plants,
planet.

More, more, more
Love, love, love…

Why do we multiculturally long for secular love
and sacred grace
and win/win karma,
yet speak
and endlessly sing
for such long-winded
and short-winged cooperative relationships?

While investing so little time listening
to him
and her
and competitive/cooperative him/her,
as Left makes Right loves Left
full-circle again.

Creator God speaking theological
and creation goddess listening ecological
EarthTribes in love with loving experience

Of and for healthy ego-
wealthy eco-relationships,
wise as also well-being compassions

Listening to, “Love, love, love”
co-investing every communing harmony
playing and working life
through deeper and wider
active listening for timeless love.

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Colorful Cultures

White is fundamental absence of color,
as is evangelical black.
But, white is colorless
due to emptiness
while black
because of good news fullness.

Transparency is presence of visibility
as is not darkness
but transparency is void
where opaque is dense.

Life is absence of death
as death is absence of life.
But, life is full and dense
while death is empty and void.

Promising evangelical integrity of all motions and emotions
actions and reactions
presence and co-presence
in-between radically sacred
and fundamentally secular
cultures of dualistic meaning
evolve courageously bright
with loads of curious light.

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Hate Management

Managing anger
is too hard work.

Our passions, positive and negative,
when strong,
have their way of managing us,
or me, anyway.

Perhaps you are better
noticing with courage,
then distracting curious strong passions,
positive and negative,
as a resource of your RightWing
return to conservational business
as win/lose usual.

More calming long-term thoughts
of last laugh
getting even more overpowerfully even,

Which my LeftWing passions
remind me is not really even
equitable
symmetric;
More source for and of future ugly
competitive LeftBrain dominance
makes right-mind curiously dispassionate,
uncourageously more wrong
to pine for loving win/win passions,
co-passioning harmonics,
egoLeft/EcoRight
personal/planetary
communion/communication co-regenerative resource
from dipolar, un-bipolar, sources.

For me, anger and fear
and self/other hate management
is much harder than role playing
what courageous,
yet curious,
reactive passions feel like
when acted out divinely,
yet humanely,
embodied mad-grace
by my ego-recovering identity,

Passionate communal identity,
noticed courageously and replayed out imaginatively,
curious original-ego
yet grace inhabited eco-
systemic daring drama
and yet more tactfully listening

To how human experience ought to be
and yet how important harmonic becoming
communioned communicators
commingling
cooperatively impassioned already
is my greatest ego/eco-centering resource,
dipolar communing courageously left
best when also curiously right

About challenges of anger management
and how to rethink
my own identity’s autonomously felt mindfulness,
more role play left with right
interdependently communicating.

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Mother’s Mother

My mother’s mother and I were very close.
We needed each other
in diversely validating ways.

She needed to know
experience
hear and see and feel and touch
a healthier love of mutual regard
than she felt she achieved
with any of her three daughters.

I needed to feel
I was some loved adult’s most significant event,
most vulnerable and transparent grace
for who I felt and knew I was
yet to gay become
without any need to change
what I could not internally rearrange.

When I was a senior in high school
this grandmother became sick with cancer
and depression,
mortal doubts and fear.

I knew this
not because I had visited her
but because my parents
and aunts
whispered their hopelessness
before repeatedly reminding me,
There is nothing I can do
to help her
or prepare myself
for such great loss,
perhaps less great,
more relief,
for them.

But they were wrong.
Wrong about my grandmother.
Wrong about me.
Wrong about us, together.

I knew her favorite hymns.
I was her favorite voice.
We needed no other instruments,
percussive or lyrical.
We had enough time
to revisit our music lessons,
Lyrics are tools for young friendship
Not weapons against old enemies.

Precious Lord
take my hand,
Lead me on
when I can’t stand.
I am tired,
I am weak,
I am worn.
Through these trials,
Through this storm,
Lead me on
Precious Lord.

And so we sang
and so I danced
and told her favorite story
of beds too hard,
of friends too soft,
and a child who sings just might

Of Earth too hot
and river beds too soft
and motherlands too cold
and us, now growing distant,
yet singing this last time
just right.

 

 

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Communal Climate

Share with me,
if you could become so kind,
Which of all your lifetime actions
was not also a reaction?

Which thought
not also a polyphonic feeling
rethought
and stored in memory
across countless regenerations?

Share with me
if you would
and could
and should,
Which of your responses
feels more original
and healthy
and organic
and sacred,
and intimate,
naturally communicated
and spiritually experienced
passion.

Share with us,
if we could become communioned,
all our actions verbal and non-verbal,
rational and not irrational,
all our acquisitional quantity intentions
not not qualitative
win/win co-investing intent,
exponentially left dominant
yet incrementally right prominent,
revolutionary communal strength
and evolutionary tribal wisdom.

Share with me
if we could become communacting,
co-munerative unfractioned,
co-numeratively re-actioned

To share with future,
as past EarthTribe patriotic actors
symbolic
iconic capital dipolar valued
originally in cooperatively developed
left/right heading heads.

To share with me,
if time could become so mindful,
co-passioning ego/eco-metric activities
Earth double-bound geometric civilities
binomial
bilateral
bicameral,

If distancing left would be so kind
to intimately share with ElderRight sacred me,
Why absence of communication
is not neutral
for those who notice,
and those who miss,
and those who are glad of change
and those who also are sad
without healthy co-action
and polypathic
polyphonic resilient re-action,
pre-investment toward communion,
harmonic karma,
resonant grace,
co-passion,
resilient love,

To share with me,
if you could become so loved lover,
Which of all your lifetime actions
was not also egocentering
eco-passioning co-reaction,
creation,
recreation,

To share with us.

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