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Note to Behavioral Therapists

Because my own behavioral issues,
and my own public political and economic issues,
follow my own vocal trauma communication concerns
and bad-health memories,

It seems my most effective management therapies
usually begin more cooperatively
more quietly spoken in vocal kindness,
and then move on to behavioral mindfulness
to focus on expressing active compassion,
as needed
and invited,
verbally and non-verbally.

If I can leftbrain need to articulate cooperative intent
and rightbrain feel compassionately active hope,
then healthier integral behaviors tend to follow
by seeking co-acclimation
in-between these self/other needs with co-arising feelings
affluently/effluently communing.

I do not conclude
from these experiences and memories
that behavioral therapies are misguided
or misdirected.

But, I do both need and feel
behaviors are both non-verbally and verbally communicated,
with or without aggressive competitive intent,
and usually somewhere ambiguously in-between
interdependence and fragmentation,
regenerative and degenerating intent.

 

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Touching With Kindness

Some parents and cooperative school teachers
and classroom and bus aides and drivers
are discussing government regulations
restraining transportation providers
from providing therapeutic touch,
because of an over-compensation
for emotional dysfunction behaviors
leading to appallingly irreverent touch.

Toxic touch critical events
predict long-term non-lifegiving,
non-wellbeing consequences
in young
vulnerable,
transparently frustrated learners

Typically,
healthily born with WinWin internal/external co-relational cognitive assumptions,
confluent expectations,
positive neural receptivity is therapeutic
while negative interceptions are toxic,
pathological.

We discuss our unhappiness
about current administrative restraints
on giving healthy therapeutic touch,
but no such caring restrictions apply
to receiving healthy
appropriate
therapeutic touch
from our wounded,
Win/Lose fragile,
fragmented,
cognitive-affective dissonant disarranged
kids.

We seem to be heading in a direction
that would more positively hypothesize,
Despite past risks of exposure to toxic touch,
and apathetic untouch,
we do not want to restrain therapeutic touch
with our arms and hands,
our feet walking and dancing in cooperative solidarity,
stepping out rhythmically, together
with our voices of kindness,
mouths speaking and singing
with ringing patterns of kindness,

Integrity fully-embodied
to support resilient WinWin therapeutic touch relationships.

One of my daughter’s school transportation providers
learned therapeutic massage from a yogi,
Who began their first hands-on learning class
by reassuring those about to receive a student’s touch,
and those about to give their first intentionally focused massage,
that there is only one mistaken choice to avoid,

Massage, any form of verbal or non-verbal touch,
turns from therapeutic default
through toxic abandonment of communication, untouched apathetic restraint,
and also when too aggressive, much more so when actively violent,

Toxins,
nonverbally and/or verbally non-communicating counter-therapies
are Win/Lose neural neglect,
lack of therapeutic mindfulness,
to not touch by therapeutic intent at all,
whether with our WinWin intending hands
or solidarity voices
or any other of Earth’s neural receiving and giving
eco-therapeutic receptors.

So, I remind my daughter
of what the yogi message therapist said,
We only want to touch with kindness,
With our hands
and with our voices,
with our preferably dancing bodies
and our more therapeutically singing mouths
and signing hands
and signaling feet.

Her transport team listens,
laughs,
maybe a touch more relaxed
about possibilities for therapeutic WinWin touching
wounded Win/Lose dis-encultured students
on their often too-neglected journeys
in well-being life-skills
for enhancing healthy wealth resilience.

While us caregiving adults
continue to cooperatively talk without touching
among our comparatively privileged selves.

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Who I Am Right Now

Who are you?
he asked perpetually, patiently
because I invited him to do so
until our time for contented me
to discover his diversely integrated/fragmented identities,
stories,
critical acting
and singing
and dancing
and warring
and terrorizing
and confronting events
right now,
and in past network iterations
and throughout future synergetic neural regenerations
of lifeline transgenerational memory.

Who are you?

I am an interdependent neural-systemic journalist,
a witness hoping to WinWin reconnect
with cooperatively invested communion ego-courage
to know and appreciate you,
your inhabited past
and echoing future
and my own best regenerative green sanctuary ego-self.

Who are you?

I am curious
about your enchantment
with interdependent neural webs
of communication,
toxic and therapeutic,
between humane capital heads,
comparing and contrasting green economic and nutritional co-investments
in democracy, not privilege,
usually cooperative,
but sometimes dissonantly suffering competing bodies
longing for relief
from EarthTribe’s WinToday to LoseTomorrow mortal enculturations,
wounding marks of perpetually anticipating tensions
about who we are
and are not yet
together.

Who are you?

I am future cooperating courage
to believe our WinWin dreams
and needs,
our hopes
co-arise positive and negative feelings
for and of, against and fleeing from,
green optimizing sanctuary communion
communities,
families,
hearts and minds
restoring polypathic neural democratic trust
communi-nonstatic
creolizing
vulcanizing resilience
between what we think and feel and resonantly say
and where we choose to use
our therapeutic hands and feet,
left dominant minds
punishing and restoring health-right holistic bodies,

Interdependent therapeutic webs
of natural body and spiritual minds
bent toward co-passionate green-means-healthy-grow relationships,
non-sectarian
non-partisan
non-violent
non-apartheid
non-privileged patience
with partial WinWin green sanctuary communions

Actively hoping for EarthTribal DNA interdependent stringing messages
within EarthPlaced integral HereNow messengers
listening, then gratefully speaking
Namaste.

Now it’s time to turn this listening/speaking table,
Who are you?

Then, for a later session,
How are we resiliently green cooperative communicators
communing communion communal
compassionate sanctuary together?

And,
please avoid terms like
communistic communalist
because that raises all sorts of toxic
anti-social isolating unkindness and impatient paranoia
and misunderstanding of original WinWin democratic motives
moving toward green social well-being prosperity,
as if liberality of love
could toxically threaten conservational green therapeutic defenses
found in robust democratic webs of deep resilience
rather than patriarchal fake-walls of privileged resistance.

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Dear Ivy

Dear Ivy,

I am sorry we did not receive even just a moment to say goodbye
and thank you to each other
for all those school bus rides we took together,
you in your harness,
and me in my wonder
about what’s coming next
from your talking head
to mine.

It is time for me to move on
to another student,
but I am happy to leave you in Miss Josie’s care.

I know she will enjoy your time
invested in each other,

Listening and taking turns speaking kindly with each other,
Singing and maybe even a little dancing together,
reading and drawing as light and bumps allow.

Maybe you can teach each other
some new KnockKnock jokes.

KnockKnock.
Who’s there?
Sandi.
Sandy who?
Sandy sandwiches
are not good for you.

KnockKnock.
Who’s there?
Josie.
Josie who?
Jo see for yourself,
Open the door!

I am grateful to have so many silly and lovely memories
of you
to take with me.

And, the greatest farewell gift you could give me
is your reassurance
that these same warm and happy memories
of us
are what you will carry with you
throughout your great adventurous journey
into well-being.

Warmly yours,

Sandi

Sandi who?
Sandy snacks
are not so good for you.

Note:

My behaviorally disordered ADHD and fetal alcoholic daughter, with abandonment issues and deep-seeded food anxiety issues, suddenly lost her long-standing school bus aide, probably to compassion burn-out.  Ivy can be a profound motivator of impatience in those around her, even with deep and widely developed caregiving and receiving skills. This is the farewell that I think Ivy would have found more therapeutic than the isolating complexities of disappearance without explanation or expressed gratitude for what did co-relationally work for so long.

To be clear, not saying goodbye was an administrative decision from above; not what Ivy’s aide wanted for herself or for Ivy.

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Cooperative Communion

When we communicate aggressively,
cynically narcissistic
about Earth’s WinWin historical healthy wealth, ongoing
slow-grown into our great grandchildren’s regenerative future,

We abandon globally universal passions
for mutual care-giving and receiving
ego and eco-therapeutic cooperative missions,

We do not intend for the ego-messenger
to be ignored,
emotion un-intelligently shot down
along with our LeftBrain too dominant
unilateral,
sometimes too aggressively monocultural
privileged messages.

We’re often mis-communicating mortally-wounded humans,
whose ancestors have bicamerally reproduced resilient regenerations
more than cognitively affective degenerative wounds.

Instead, intending to communicate through communion gestalts
despite flawed WinLose ego-messengers
still longing to make enthymematically nice
polypathic WinWin eco-messages,

Healthy wealth engorged,
DNA vulcanizing,
creolizing,
affluent effluent rooted Elder RightBrain stem
branching non-sectarian networks
leafing non-violent webs
budding non-competitive WinWin economies
seeding co-passionate
co-arising dipolar
Here/Now
SpaceTime ZeroZones
both resilient and resonant,
both health and wealth co-passionate messages

Paid forward
through all affluent history with effluent herstory integrity
to speak enthymematic yang-cause with yin-infective solidarity
Positive 1s co-passioning bilateral 0-Zones

Informed by Earth’s healthiest well-being
this democratic energy-balancing
emergent WinWin green integral
not merely psychological
and not unjustly eco-political day.

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Empathic Communication

Great transitional resolutions,
effective, resilient communications,
like all communal, valid systems,
like all communions, vital paradigms,
grow robust as fueled by compassion

And grow frail
disrupted
blown up
as fueled by competitive aggression,
the narcotic nastiness of self-criminalizing narcissism,
internal externalizing terrorism.

Negative nutrition
is non-positive communication,
not non-violent transubstantiation,
not not absence of sustainable remuneration.

Negative, like absent zero, is distractingly difficult
to even dissonantly talk about
or through,
much less back and forth in a resilient way
Our almost total lack of nutritional resonant flow
despite our most compassionate positive communication
original intention
to communicate more happy democratic constitutional principles
of power for dynamically evolving wellness,
mutual well-being,
dynamic we-consciousness,
healthy co-passionate wealth.

Positive communication, resiliently predicted,
requires absence of negative miscommunication, dissonant

As perfect love
invites the absence of self-punishing sin

As compassionate goals
compel absence of narcissism,
absence of fear about claustrophobic ego-futures,
absence of reactive anger about past competitive egocentric wounds,
partially self-inflicted,

Absence of self-forgiveness for being LeftBrain dominant
human,
longing for great transitional resolutions…

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Holiday Happiness Quest

Happiness comes in diverse packages,
high to low,
outside to inside,
light to dark.

From global premium Health
through local everyday
resiliently benign
steady-state Communion,
down toward sado-masochistic fake over/under-powering happiness
nihilistically ecstatic
denialistically empathic
dualistically manic
fundamentally terrorizing missions of anti-cultural delight in hate
zealous and haughty DarkGlee
violently fighting for self-righteous scrooge supremacy
because,
after all,
what else would omnipotent god’s gift
to this bought and sold benighted Earth do
in the face of such glamorously stupid
heart two sizes too large to tolerate toxic co-dependency?

Self-righteous DarkGlee
refueled by punishing yin’s communal integrity
for presuming to wear democratic empowering pants
in this violently sectarian
elitist inhumane family
ruling supremely over all other EarthTribes
and Earth
Her blighted birthing
benighted virginal Self.

In response to universal healthy happiness needs,
Peace emerges dark listening winter solstice born
to unite everyday peace
feeling and thinking
co-arising longing for hope-therapeutic actions
nutritional gift rooted
in interdependent
co-empathic
co-messianic
planetary identity.

Humane eco-divining everyday beings
becoming Earth’s HappinessTribe
by growing cooperatively therapeutic
healthy universal yang needs
co-gravitating unitarian integral yin-flow feelings,

Thoughts Adventuring empathic listening
silently hopeful
diurnal winter through summer happy co-investments
in and of and for cooperative climate gifts.

No unhappy commercial receipts required
for unfortunate non-communal returns.

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