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Earth Sanctuary

I live in a curious network of relationships,
most quietly quite lovely
and a few more intensely challenging
unrelation shipped-out

In here both/and building awareness
is our non-verbal norm
of gesture
intent
confluent action
with congruent thought
reactions,

While large-scale one-way either true or false
linear messages spread out like win-or-lose economies
and politically powerful influences
to commodify,
to perpetuate tomorrow’s consumer of either/or noise

Not as courageously authentic
and curiously integral,
holistic
as our original Earth Paradise
networking win/win potentiality
reweaving shared reality

So much positive opportunity
for improvement;
So little negative risk
of unmovement.

I hear far more win/lose
than I can possibly win/win co-respond.
This is both intensely challenging
and yet, curiously,
quietly quite lovely.

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A Realer World

When I’m preparing my garden
for the drama of planting
a multicultural communion
lovely above
and interdependently rooted below,
inside human voices
sound pre-occupied with unremediated mediocrity,
unreality,
what does not richly nurture
what cannot deeply re-nature.

Non-violent communication,
like poetry,
and planting,
is about HOW co-relational win/win messages
therapeutically happen,
metaphorically co-arise consciousness.

Compassionate communication theory,
and love experience,
are about WHY co-relational win/win messages
are healthy-wealth optimizing,
and happen, and do not happen,
enough in each win/lose suffering
competitive
egocentric day
on anthrocentric mis-cultured,
capital-infested,
distractedly inhumane
unreal Earth.

Whether our analysis is driven by compassionate communication
gesture,
behavioral structure,
bilaterally supportive mindfulness,
or win/win bicameral game theory
or healthy/pathological custodial systems
regenerative opportunity/degenerative risk-avoidance analysis,
or co-relational left/right
ego/eco-recentering intervention technologies,

We all,
from west to east,
from north to south,
from left to right,
from day to night,
from green to ultra-violet,
from explicate to implicate,
from flower to root,
want to improve political and personal nutritional relationships,
opportunities for growing win/win robust consensus
consciousness,
and minimize toxic and high-risk absence of co-relational
therapeutic
supportive intent.

We all want to grow mindfulness
of intra- and inter-personal healthy communication
pasts,
futures,
nondually present here with now.

Politically incorrect zero-sum competitive communication,
win/lose egocentric miscommunication,
and anthrocentric excommunication
cause global ill-being

Just as politically correct win/win EarthCentric communication
effects and affects
healthy well-being.

Whether in my real world garden,
or on my unreal gridiron.

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Raising ChildFriendly Communities

When disuniting yang’s admittedly subjective supremacy
debates against disforming yin’s non-objective wimpiness,

Then yin with yang,
like right with left
ego/eco-covenanting crisis wanderers
sojourn between win/win and lose/lose anawim,
learning to speak against vulnerable emigrants
absorbing dualistic debates.

These two now mutual antagonists are most motivated
to leave their win/lose wilderness wanderings,
in urgent search here for a more secure dialogical sanctuary
away from emerging outside/inside climates
of increasingly rabid pathology.

Learning to ask stretching win/win cooperative left/right questions,
like how can we universally tolerate non-listening pathologies
without fragmenting our unitarian interdependent doxologies?

How can we exchange therapeutic questions
with universal integrity
for tolerating only nontoxic answers
without some unitarian communal sanctuary
for deep learning more expansive not not tolerant
of active hope
to sing and dance
more globally together?

With no ego-adolescent inappropriate supremacists
left hopelessly
and passively behind
for right-wing monoculturing punishments
or insufficient left-wing lack of universally empathic love.

Is it possible to celebrate
a virtuously interdependent circle
only intolerant of unreflective win/lose tolerance
for received colonizing
and monoculturing v multiculturing
dualistic Earth evolving views
through either/or?

Rather than securing a cooperatively held
inside/outside-justice climate space
for all bicameral both/and nondual dipolarities
appositionally tolerating paradox

Worthy of harmonic wu-wei
in-between tipping points
toward healthy with harmonic integrity
economies paid co-redemptively forward
in powered political relationships
of mutual forgiveness
for publicly implicit win/lose assumptions
deforming childhoods past.

 

 

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The UnAlter Call

Our UU ecofeminist minister
was verbally accosted one Sunday morning
after celebrating multicultural peace
and respect
and integrity
sufficient to restore private ego- and public eco-justice.

This was far too much to take in,
to peacefully and holistically rake in,
for a visiting,
perhaps stalking,
apartheid anti-socialist

Whose most engaging
personable mentors and teachers
had already shared the correct win/lose answers,
either true or false,
either sacred or secular,
either spiritual strength or natural relativistic evil
of right-brain’s both/and integral tolerance-stretching levels,

Which his left-brain never over-indulges
much less dances
or sings with,
in multicultural head and heart voice.

So he angrily confronted
our UU minister
with “You must not tolerate such eclectic multicultural celebration!
These and those deviants are too wounded by original sin
for God to authoritatively save
from your universally wrong uniting perdition.
We need non-partitioned apartheid to sever us best
from those others, too wildly sensual and sinful worst
misbegotten creatures of Satan!”

“I cannot tolerate such radical integrity
or even, maybe odd, tolerance
to sing and dance,
to sit and pray,
to stand and march
polypathically and polyphonically together.
Especially on a sacred Sunday morning
when you should be worshiping God of time’s revolutionary creation,
polyculturally completed in seven 24-hour days
and monotheistic nights.”

“You should be on your knees
to the One true jealous and punishing win/lose Father!”

Our ordained covenant-keeper of universal resonance
and unitarian resilience,
concerned about whether Father MonoGod might be left-brain armed,
informed her avowed antagonist,
a clear and way too present threat
to building interdependent win/win webs
where all his win/lose walled-off answers
somberly declared ‘don’t even think about feeling deviantly
about anything!’

“Like you
I do not tolerate intolerance
when it is shouted against me,
but perhaps when morally appropriate boundaries for tolerance are asked
and invited for discussion
while actually hoping for some response
that could include all of us
if willing to change enough
to tolerate compassionate criticism
for not beginning with questions “Why?”
before providing answers to What
you and I must not find
appropriate to tolerate.”

Then she asked me to drum our drums
and sing a healing song
while she danced and shook a consecrated rattle
in smoky incensed circles
like any witch doctor might think to sternly do,

Whether tongue in cheek
or not
I could not say,
as I was singing
and beating her rhythms
with integrity of tolerance,
in mutual celebration
of great transitional nudging questions

And not not knotted paradox
of not tolerating double-bound intolerance
within as not without

And hating haters
which seems difficult for consistent self-esteem
and win-me/win-you co-integration,
or even win-left/win-right ego/eco-transubstantiation.

Our mono-supreme nationalist,
hater of radical sabbath love,
did not speak of his surprise
but effectively and affectively acted
with discomforted exit
and discomforting alarm.

I’m sure with many questions
but probably not better ones
than his pre-existing either/or condition
would allow in tolerable responses.

Which seems sad.
A lost opportunity,
for our ego/ecofeminist minister
and music me,
to nudge and stretch and grow
our tolerant co-integrity

To tolerate violating answers
to win/win questions
he, then we,
forgot to ask
about this paradox of hating haters
and only loving privileged lovers

Reminding me of several songs
about growing in love with love’s mankind,
but not sabbath people
in heat against hate,
sad about despair,
glad about integrity of wealthy mental health.

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Feather Pillowed Fighting Stalk

My handsome brown-skinned husband
was once again velvet-voiced complaining
just this morning
while I was staring
glaring at my overstuffed sock drawer,

“You are so consistently ambivalent
and reliably inconsistent
I have no idea what’s coming next
from your lack of erection direction.

You ‘both-and’ everything
hopelessly,
yet tirelessly,
looking for the perfectly balanced win-win
in a win-lose
eat or be eaten world.
I have no idea
what you would do without me.”

Although I somewhat more hopefully resemble this remark
and I can see he is not not wrong,
or right,
totally dark or totally bright,
all his “either black or white”
left-brain dominance
does sound impatiently judgmental.

So, in an impulsive moment of ginger anger,
I respond

“You are so poor
you’ve never had two co-incidental thoughts
to rub together.”

“Is that like a mixed metaphor
or something sinister
unpulled together?
Anyway, that sounds shockingly ungenerous
from win-win you.”

“Sorry if I hurt your feelings.”

“What feelings?”

“I think my question is
Which feelings did I hurt?”

“My feelings about personal wealth
and left-embodied with right-mind cooperative
win-win political health
to handle your dipolar co-arising appositions.”

Maybe I’ll go with one old dark sock
and one white privileged.

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Ballistic ForceSourced History

Like lack of preventive health care,
far more love is lost
through passive neglect
than active abuse.

And so it is
perhaps a negative corollary
we, most of us,
have failed to notice,
neglecting the industrial, then colonizing
history of unhealthy abusive gunpowder
moving toward western colonization
from Eastern playful,
and considerably more mindful and lovely,
origins of fireworks
spraying loud and joyful light
like stars falling
through blackened skies.

Eastern uncommodifying innocence,
decorating dark red skies with multiculturing light
rather than desecrating warm Western bodies
with loss of loving life
in search of royal golden treasure.

As YinSource moved into western European industrial revolutions,
She transformed into a hot Yang trade commodity
for exchanging power
overwhelming indigenous people
in Africa,
then the Americas,

Useful beauty tools
now deadly weapons fired and forced
for asserting Yang’s autonomous ownership
over darkly wild slaves
and their sacred magic habitats
of panentheistic humane-left/divine-right
organic health/wealth belief systems–

Where Yin waters dawn equally
and interdependently
within Yang-nurturing MotherLands
gilded by generous GrandMother Moon
and GreenBlue OceanSky Woman.

Most of us have also failed to notice,
without abusive monoculturing
colonizing intent,
a reverse-reversing time metaphor
of healthy-wealth YangForce power with YinSource,
receding into autistic lack of WinWin
embedded compassion care,
preventive holistic medicine
of multiculturing light
humane resourcedf
divine preforced

Further receding with indigenous wisdom loss,
from historical West
back to pre-historical East
wombed Source

Now engaging our globally embedded lead
in restoring Yin/Yang climate
thought-forced
and felt-sourced
co-present restoring justice,

A higher priority than Western Yang
ballistic abusiveness
without Yin’s health and beauty co-assertiveness,
non-violently communicating together
bicameral Win/Win grace
love
lived health
in NorthWest ego/SouthEast eco-appreciative red/green balance,

Long feared
by kleptocratic blue-blood Pharisees,
Win/Lose mafia governors,
and Lose/Lose nihilistic Sadducees,
kleptocratic aristocracies
themselves sadly enslaved
by swords and daggers
of abusive,
then neglectful, Roman colonies.

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Speaking Passionate Peace

Speaking of peace
is at least not acting for further violence.

To speak about peace
with integrity
and power
is to speak peacefully,
confluently,
affluently and effluently,
from a position of heuristic left
and appreciative right
self/other integral inquiry.

Courageous wins
and curious wins
through co-empathic rediscovery,
all healthy souls are One, co-passioning
all souls are on our wealthy privileged/impoverished way
toward ZeroZone truths
with not not zero-sum ways.

To speak about world peace
without climate restoring justice,
is to re-cast Earth
as our impoverished unprivileged slave,
properly raped
and fracked
and drilled for plunder
wealthing without healthing
those of kleptocratic satiated anthro-centric privilege.

To speak about peace
with integrity
and power
is to speak peacefully,
win/win confluently,
from a position of healthy heuristic
and wealthy appreciative
inquiry.

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SuperIntentions

I know you were intending
to facilitate an adult faith formation
discernment process
appropriately resonant for AllSouls,
here today
lingering tomorrow
and reborn memories of yesterday,

Then this process seemed to disappear,
Which seems curiously queer,

So, I am wondering if it is too late
to volunteer
to help facilitate
an Integral Permaculture Design
process
toward holistic, and interdependent,
universal and unitarian
Faithful Healthy-Wealth Formation,

A searching integrity process
designed to regenerate co-equal
health and faithful climate therapists
for transparent and vulnerable indoor places
and outdoor non-violent communicating spaces
to grow green resilience inside/outside together
ego/eco-therapeutically.

If I might help
don’t hesitate,

Warmly,

Gerald O Dillenbeck, MDiv, MPA,
Green STEAM Teacher Certified
to facilitate public healthy-faith resilient research
and multicultural re-occupations

Still universal YangLeft
co-operative with
unitarian YinRight

Ego/Eco balancing
healthy/wealth
facilitating integrity’s win/win
self/other-optimizing opportunities.

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Sinister v Golden Shadows

Not showers; shadows.

Yin speaks,
murmurs really

Talking GoldenShadow
whispering warmly
wetly
hypnotically
fascinatingly
in my left ear.

Notice:
In 2011-12
Bill Plotkin wrote

“Sinister Shadow, projected:
Donald, president of the United States,
refers to the Soviet Union
as ‘the Evil Empire’…
and actually believes this is true.”

True of all 2019 federations,
integrities,
synergy,
healthy wealth,
cooperative and competitive gestalts
he cannot LeftBrain-RightWing win
control over their losses
by narcissistically bullying
his own integral sacred RightBrain co-operative economy
hosting empowering gestalt co-ownership,
LeftBrain tasty satisfying research licks
while listening to RightBrain warm wet whispers.

What President Donald fails to first and last term notice,
RightBrain feels
EgoSubjects need Evil Empire bullying experience
to know other Evil Empires
when they LeftBrain see them
and intuitively Lose/Lose feel them
Right inside green cooperative health potentialities

Whispering integrity’s promise
despite sinister non-golden ruling shadows
projecting out to Eastern ancient bodhisattvas
and back to future Western Win/Lose dominance
projecting messianic capitalistic anthrocentrism
RightWing deforesting Earth again.

GoldenShadow rules against kleptocratic bad economic behaviors
divesting of emerging non-violently communicating global WinWin
counter-enculturing cooperative manners,
Namaste integrity
Left with Right
Ego secular dominance with EcoSacred prominence,

Golden Rules whispered
out of my left ear
to avoid ringingly offensive behavior
WinLeft/LoseRight trending toward RedLose/GreenLose
Ego/Eco dis-integrity double-binds,
degeneration where regenerative politics
was Earth’s original warm wet whisper
floating between overshadowing winds
greeting undershadowing waters

Which,
for this ZeroZone Zen-Taoist,
speaks through YangLeft/RightYin nondual bilaterally integral listening
for warm, wet wombed
Golden Yang/Yin co-operating Shadows
co-passioning Ego/Eco health-systemic
private and public
identity and solidarity win wins

So,
Cooperatively owned and managed
healthy GestaltParadise
is my non-sectarian
non-partisan
non-violent communication game
of mental/spiritual-health optimization,
best played
just the Golden opposite of Sinister Donald’s bully threats
and violently mono-kleptocratic
most cynical threatening promises
of further Lose/Lose bad health and climate un-care–
redSinister fear-mongering v greenGolden co-passionate
planting and harvesting.

Which is about as anti-Christian
and anti-re-ligion
and anti-integrity
and anti-healthy/wealthy families,
anti-domestic through extended RightBrain holonic gestalts
emerging healthy LeftBrain-RightMind bodies
experiencing wealthy RightBrain polypathic health
as any
and every
one EgoIdentity’s optimal green/red wealth

Could possibly NotHealth/NotWealth West/East climate pathology
project beyond a whisper
in 2019
heading for 2020 ReVolutioning Re-Ligious HealthService Integrity
non-sectarian
non-partisan
non-violent
GoldenRule globally cooperative.

 

Quote from Bill Plotkin’s “Wild Mind”, p. 208, published in 2013.

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The Public Health-Wealth Dissertation

What lies closest to godliness for you?

Cleanliness/purity,

Integrity,

Compassion,

Resilient health,

Wise Win/Win wealth

Other

 

Why?

Does your answer change if the question turns to:

What lies closest to Gaian EarthGoddess for you?

If so, why?

If not, why not?

 

These questions came up as I was looking for a dissertation topic for Euclid University’s PhD in Inter-Religious Dialogue and International Diplomacy.

On Euclid’s website we read something about what this is all about:

“Interfaith diplomacy is an important and new emerging field of research, notably in view of ongoing inter-religious [Win/Lose] conflict, mass migrations [not unrelated to climate change, and trending in that further unfortunate pathological Lose/Lose direction], and grave issues related to radicalization [and concomitant economic and political concerns of growing belief and behavior and investment in apartheid, monoculturing silos, self-ghettoization, and viral tendencies toward Lose/Lose rabid climates of disintegrating terrorism, dualistic nature v spirit theologies, degeneratively entropic absence of robust cooperativity—lack of Win/Win systems thinking, integral multicultural dialogue and design—fading polycultures of democratically liberal love and economic/ecological health development through Win/Win creolization rather than more Business As Usual Western commodification of sacred, integral, holonic, nonsectarian, interdependent Earth].”

Then we can read something about why:

“Euclid’s specialized PhD degree focuses on interfaith practice and the actual application of interfaith skills in the [healthy] community [of non-sectarian, non-violent, non-partisan, non-nationalistic, non-sadistic, non-masochistic cooperative democratic discernment of Win/Win integral responses to outstanding issues seeking effluent equity and affluent interdependent systems, ecosystems, egosystems, governing systems, co-governing systems, eco-governing green systems,…], rather than the advancement of [merely] academic [left-brain dominant, commodified, Win/Lose default Either/Or competitive contradicting and dividing what God may have originally kept Both/And bilaterally bicamerally and binomially cause/effect, Alpha/Omega, Left/Right, Yang/Yin, patriarchal Either/Or and matriarchal Both/And perpetual-flowing matriarchally sacred nutritional integrity kept together for further healthy-wealth Win/Win discernment, discussion, dialogue, non-sectarian diplomacy] knowledge for it’s own sake.”

“Our program places a special [Win/Win] emphasis on contemporary Islam, Muslim-Christian [Abrahamic patriarchal cooperatively co-investing in fertile multicultural and ecologically healthy wealthy self/other-optimizing integrity, authority, responsibility, resilient Win/Win stewardship of power, light, life, economic Zero-interest smart green co-investment,…] dialogue, modern [liberally cooperative green-conservation of left/right, north/south, west/east co-dominant experiential] secularism, as well as de-radicalization [non-violent communication through compassionately resilient cooperative health-supporting words and trusted Golden Rule Win/Win deeds] and [ecologically ecclesiological knowledgeable and wise mutual-polyculturing] mediation.”

 

So, when I was invited to present a dissertation topic, I suggested:

The technology and philosophy of dialogue, diplomacy, conflict resolution, restorative justice, peace-making, non-violence, WinWin solutions, derive from philosophy, theology, natural and social sciences, and perhaps even abstract psychotherapeutic geometrics.  Rather than asking the more classical academic questions of how are these better and worse than each other, how do they differ, perhaps it is more fruitful to diversely and interdependently compare these health/pathology paradigms to search for their most resilient therapeutic WinWin communion and wealthy holonic promise?

Using a combination of Systems and Game Theory, I have a dissertation interest in looking more closely,

with a local interfaith community of ecological/theological dialogue, at any two or three of the following sources to see how their analogical mapping (Gregory Bateson, Ecology of Mind) might combine to inform a robust nonsectarian healing process for Earth’s wounded economic and political climates, natural and spiritual, secular and sacred, and how we might enter into a secular/sacred non-sectarian health-and-climate-care implementation cooperative mission for healing our local Earth, wounded plants, and EgoLeft/EcoRight

co-operative Win/Win

compassionate mind/body

UniversalYang/UnitarianYin

nondualistic health/wealth people.

 

Jane Gordon                          political philosophy                                            creolization

Thich Nhat Hanh                  buddhist philosophy             nutrition-communication systems

Iain McGilchrist                cognitive psychotherapy                bicameral (bilateral) integrity

Paul Tillich/Arthur Peacocke      Christian theology                       dialectal panentheism

Charles Eisenstein               cooperative economics                  sacred WinWin evolution

(possibly in analogical dialogue with Islamic economics)

Buckminster Fuller              cooperative geometrics           4D prime synergetic relationship

14th Dalai Lama                       religious philosophy                               compassionate therapy

Kenneth Cloke                      WinWin facilitation      restorative/non-violent communication

Edward Wilson                   cognitive biological evolution                                consilience

Lao Tze                               systemic health-governance                Yang/Yin co-governance

(possibly in dialogue with Universal/Unitarian principles)

David Holmgren            permaculture design (integral)         multicultural health outcomes

Robert Norton                       communications theory                   enthymematic reiteration

To my surprise, this Win/Win cooperatively facilitated research proposal was rejected as not germane to the purposes and implementation focus of the Win/Win Inter-Religious Integrity Dialogue and Public Resilient Health Diplomacy PhD program, with stipulated intent to remain responsive to a United Nations cooperative Win/Win Earth Health Service training project to derive the most resilient terms possible for global co-investment.

So, instead of facilitating a local inter-religious and international dialogue, which would be expensive, sacrifice some trees, burn some gas and oil, it occurred to me to invite you into an even larger community of dialogue about what are our highest public and private health priorities for multiculturally cooperative people who understand godliness and/or Gaian/Marian EarthGoddessness as at least sufficient power to intend enough cooperative integrity for generating light out of nondual darkness.

Which, on living Earth, has produced some astounding evolution of compassionate grace history, and some other, darker herstoric repressions.  Even so, we each seek to facilitate and mentor polycultural resilience, polyphonic resonance, polynomial Win/Win communication, polypathic ways, and ego/eco-centering means toward divinely-humane healthy truth of wealth-abundant beauty. Or so it seems to me, which is why my answer is:

To co-facilitate good faith integrity of Earth’s vast health/wealth potential.

 

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