Our children learn to deserve the parents they get, which is why parents deserve the children they raise.
We need each other less when we love each other more, for who we are now, of course, but also for who we are potentially, in the future. Not one or the other; both.
Because, whether we do, or do not, love our children, or anyone, regardless of species, whether currently alive or not yet, or already gone into their optimal potential, they will trust our actions and passivities regarding their potential value to us, and to themselves, while discarding our words on this subject, which primarily stimulate cognitive dissonance for any child; when not delivered with compassionate mindfulness.
A bit of wisdom from the elders has traditionally gone a a long way toward what is typically the end of a very short attention span.
What Taoists, and maybe other current and ancient spiritual/religious traditions, metrically and nominally presume is a Positive Teleological Faith, and its corollary, that we are intrinsically interdependent in a profoundly evolutionary way toward an Omega Point that strongly suggests, implies, predicts that we will arrive in the future back with our Original Intent. This has an intergenerational cyclic dynamic, our kids treating us with some echoing disdain, “I’m too busy trying to scheme my way toward a more leisurely, and preferably more richly abundant, future than I am about your future right this minute, so please go play amongst yourselves,” that came their way when they were maybe about the ages of 3 to 12, when we finally notice that they are going to be leaving us in a minute and our relationship habit-culture holes are already entrenched. Each generation wrestling to optimize our story by minimizing dissonant relationships, especially primal relationships, like
mother-child, as benign Mother Earth and benignly developing parasites
father-child, extended family,
oldest v. youngest child, middle child ,
intrinsic genetic traits such as regularity of heart beat and lung capacity
strength of eyesight, and foresight, more generally
affective responses to sensory input such as touch
pain-suffering, mutual caress,
aptic sense of positive mutual confluence (especially pre-sight/sound) older-brained, pre-bicameral;
information default functions as +0 OVER (-)1.00% QBit dissonance, chaos, Implicate Order (D. Bohm),
unraveling RNA-strictured (or enthymematic, see Robert Norton and David Brenders “Communication & Consequences”) information string self-reproducing, regenetic becoming-pattern of in-forming.
If we assume bicameral information processors are binomially optimally self-organizing, then Polynomial information (P) equals Not-Polynomial information (NP) as Bohm’s Explicating Physical Order reverse balances our Dark Relationship “Black Hole” Implicately Disrelationshiping backdrop of balanced functional/dysfunctional reverse relationship; the negative face of Yin e-functional relationship in our 4-equidimensional Universe. Just imagine an audio-video file of your life in reverse, including those earliest seconds–OK, now that’s cognitive dissonance so maybe we don’t really want to go there–try staying within your DNA’s Interior Landscape–not imagining your parents naked. That’s just yucky.
(-)Not-Polynomial (NP) ex(information) = -1QBit NP/Yin = +0 QBit bi(polynomial +P)/Yang; these two prime QBits are reverse-elliptical (concave/convex–like the Yang/Yin icon).
Assuming 4-equidimensionally balanced spacetime +/- e-function: magnetic-dynamically balanced polar, or appositional, (+/-)0-souled [G. Perelman, W. Thurston, et. al. Group Theory] Prime Relationship. Defined as:
+.50% e-function Yang = -.50% e-dysfunctionally unraveling, reverse-revolving, Implied Sub-Prime Chaos with Harmonic Octaved e-frequency primal strictured Yin intuitive fractally regenetic hierarchical structure of 8-QBits/1 Q/Byte:
(-) 000 (+) 111
(-) 001 (+) 110
(-) 010 (+) 101
(-) 011 (+) 100
After all, thinking back on it, I can see how the messes I get into with my kids have played an Original Intent Teacher role to TrimTab my dissonant excesses and absences in my parental relationships,and how these predict our current issues arriving at an Omega Launching Point into an optimized sustainable global and personal future for my kids, our kids.
Did I say “my kids” out loud?
Well, good, maybe they will hear that as an apology and peace offering; as well as a congratulations and my gratitude for being such patient teachers. May they learn more than they have taught me. They will be wise in deed, and perhaps even wiser in their words. Although this is, of course, most difficult to imagine.